10 Easy Ways to Have More Self-Love in Your Life

Self-Love is an important love!

Comparison and self-doubt are easy to do. However, doing the opposite can be tricky. However, with the right techniques and habits, you can have more self-love in your life, and build a great relationship with yourself.

I’ve struggled with constant comparison and self-doubt for so long. Actually, sometimes, I still find myself struggling with it. Sometimes I find myself criticizing mistakes I’ve done and can get negative. To be honest with you, that’s all so easy to do.

But I know that when I have self-love habits and practices set in place, I don’t stay in those traps for long. That’s why it’s important to have go-to techniques and habits you’ll do whenever you lack self-love. This is because your self-love isn’t always going to be 100% perfect (and that’s okay!)

This blog post will go through some strategies and techniques that will help boost your self-love. You’ll learn of different ways that can help you enhance your self-love and nurture a great relationship with yourself. This post is for anyone seeking to improve the relationship they have with themselves!

If there is something that I miss on this list, I would love to hear some of the ways that you practice self-love! You can comment on this post, and since I’m the only one that sees them at this time, you can be as open as you’d like.

Now, let’s dive in.

1 – Creating a “ME-LIST”

A “me-list” is pretty much a list about you! This is where you write down everything about yourself such as what you do for a living, your amazing qualities, what you love doing for fun, fun facts, life stories, and beyond. You can look at it like a biography.

This is a great way to boost self-love when you’re in your comparison mode. You can look at this list whenever you’re feeling like you’re comparing yourself to someone else. You’ll be reminded of how unique and special you are because of everything that you are. This helped me whenever I felt like I was behind in life or struggling with my self-confidence.

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2 – Self-Love Boosters & Drainers

One of the ways to be productive with your self-love is to already know what your self-love boosters are drainers are.

Your self-love boosters are what boosts your self-love. Your self-love drainers is what drains your self-love.

For example, my self-love boosters are:

• Inspirational/Motivational Pinterest folder
• Drinking water
• Taking a shower
• Journalling

And my self-love drainers are:

• Social Media
• Reading/Watching the News

By knowing these ahead of time, this help me know what to do whenever I lack self-love. You know ahead of time what not to do, which are your self-love drainers. By avoiding those, you prevent yourself from feeling worse. But by knowing what boosts your self-love, you can immediately do those things to start feeling like yourself again.

3 – Unfollowing accounts that make you feel bad about yourself

If there is a food that is making you feel sick every time you eat it, or it always drains your energy, the common sense response is to avoid eating it when you can.

However, sometimes we find ourselves still following accounts that we know make us feel bad about ourselves. Rather than inspiring or motivating us, these accounts would make us compare our lives and feel bad about them.

I guess in this situation, it’s similar to the food that always make us sick. If it is always making us feel bad, then why do we still follow the accounts? At the end of the day, it’s still just a follow.

That’s why, when you can, do a reflection of the accounts you follow on social media. If the account isn’t giving you motivation, inspiration, education, or entertainment, then it may be time to consider whether you should still be following the account.

Trust me, social media is always a better experience when your feeds are curated to make you feel good.

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4 – Setting smaller boundaries

It’s already a self-love tip to set boundaries for yourself, especially the big major boundaries. But, never underestimate the power of the smaller boundaries.

By smaller boundaries, these boundaries include:

• Turning off notifications for apps you don’t need notifications for;
• Not going on the news as much.
• Choosing to not make the news a discussion topic

If setting bigger boundaries seems overwhelming, you can start small with the smaller boundaries and work your way up. They are also good practices to help you affirm and stick with those boundaries.

5 – Self-Dates & Alone Time

These also work hand-in-hand!

With self-dates, this is where you take yourself out on a date and do an activity that you enjoy doing! Maybe taking yourself out on a date can feel intimidating at first, but the more times you do it, the more you get used to it.

With me-time, this is the same thing. This is where you are spending time with yourself. Not only that, but you also get to spend time with your thoughts and doing activities that you truly enjoy doing.

Both are important because they help you build a relationship with yourself. After all, just like with any relationship, one of the significant ways to build a relationship is by spending time with the person.

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6 – Mirror affirmations while doing skincare

I’m guessing that you’re probably already doing your skincare in front of the mirror.

So, why not combine it with one of the popular personal development habits?

Since you’re already looking at yourself in the mirror while doing your skincare, it’s the perfect time to do it.

The reason why mirror affirmations are so powerful is that when you’re talking to yourself in the mirror, it’s like you’re…. talking to yourself. And when you’re saying motivating and encouraging things to yourself, you’re saying them while looking at yourself in the eyes. Eye contact is quite powerful.

When it comes to building life-changing habits one key reminder is to make it easier on yourself. It’s so much easier for you to build a habit when it’s easy, and that’s why we try to remove the barriers as much as possible.

So, come up with a few affirmations, and when you do your skincare, say it to yourself in the mirror.

7 – Water affirmations

This is another efficient way to do your affirmations!

I’m guessing that you already know why it’s important to drink water. Along with the benefits, you can also add affirmations on top of drinking water!

This is how you do it:

First, you write down the affirmations you want to believe more onto paper, and tape it onto your usual water bottle.

Then, every time you drink the water, you’ll look at the affirmations, or just think of the affirmations as you sip the water. So, when you drink the water, you also “drink” the affirmations as well. The more times you do it, the more you associate those affirmations with drinking water.

This is a life-changing habit because you’re combining both an important health habit and personal growth habit. It’s worth giving a go.

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8 – Gratitude Exercises

This is one of the easiest things to do but also the easiest thing to NOT do.

However, you can never be too grateful. Gratitude can go a long way, especially during times when it gets challenging. When things are going well, you’re grateful, but you’re also grateful when things are challenging as well. This is because it helps you remember what you do have as opposed to what you don’t have.

If you want to get this started as a habit, the easiest and very effective way to start practicing it is to write down three things you’re grateful for in the morning, and three things in the evening. It’s a great small step to training your brain to be more grateful. If you want to revamp your morning and evening routines, this is a good way to do it.

9 – Do one thing every day that future you will thank you for

One of the way to show love for someone is by doing something for them, especially something that they don’t like doing. For example, a person doesn’t like washing their car, so out of kindness, you decide to give them a car wash. Of course, they say thank you (hopefully).

You can do the same thing for yourself. Yes, I know that you’re still the one that has to do it. But, at the end of the day, someone will still thank you. That’s your future self.

Every single day, whether big or small, do something that your future self will thank you for, and there are many things.

For example, you can declutter your house, do a chore that you’ve dreaded doing, or you got a head start on an assignment. By doing those, your future self will thank you.

Or it can be something small like having your water bottle filled up before bed so you don’t have to worry about refilling it in the morning. Even preparing your outfits and items the night before so the future you the next day don’t have to worry about thinking of it.

A little goes a long way, there’s nothing too big and there’s nothing too small.

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10 – Create a self-love routine

Yes, there is a routine for your self-love! This is the routine that you use whenever you feel like you’re lacking self-love, when you could use a little booster, or when you just want to maintain it in general.

Here are the steps to the routine:

1. Identify what gives you more self-love – things you can do whenever you need a self-love booster.
2. Identify what doesn’t give you self-love – things to avoid whenever you’re lacking self-love, to avoid feeling worst.
3. Identify the feelings you have when you’re at your lowest level of self-love – describing how you feel when you’re lacking self-love.
4. Identify the feelings you have when you’re at your highest level of self-love – describe the feelings you have when your self-love is great.
5. Keep the list handy to help you know what to avoid, what makes your self-love worse, and what doesn’t make a difference. You also know what makes you feel good.
6. Shake them up – Doing the same thing repeatedly can make you feel bored and unmotivated. That’s why it’s important to try new things occasionally and find more ways to love yourself.

You can read the blog post on this self-love routine to read more about it in depth!

Take a SMALL STEP

Here are some small steps you can take to try each of these points!

1. Create a ME-LIST – Using a notebook or the notes app on your phone, write everything about you! (like a biography). List down what you do, your hobbies, what you’re passionate about, what you love doing, life story, and much more! You can start small if you’d like.
2. Create your list of self-love boosters and drainers – List down what boosts and drains your self-love so you can refer to it whenever you’re lacking self-love.
3. Unfollow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself
4. Set smaller boundaries – List down 2 small boundaries you’ll implement.
5. Self-Dates & Alone Time – List down 5 solo date ideas, and 3 self-care ideas for your alone time.
6. Mirror affirmations – Next time you do your skincare, say some affirmations while doing it!
7. Water affirmations – Write down a few affirmations on paper, and tape them onto your usual water bottle, cup, or glass.
8. Gratitude exercises – Write down 3 things you’re grateful for right now! (or just think of them in your head)
9. Do one thing every day that your future self will thank you for – List down 3 things that you currently dread doing, and make a commitment to do them soon for your future self.
10. Create a self-love routine – Read THIS as your small step!

To Wrap Up

Self-love is an ongoing journey that requires conscious effort and dedication. That’s why, we went through these 10 ways that can help you boost your self-love and improve the relationship you have with yourself. From creating a Me List to setting boundaries, unfollowing negative accounts, going on self-dates, and having alone time, doing affirmations and gratitude exercises, and doing things for your future self, they help us cultivate self-love.

Even if taking big steps feels overwhelming, remember that there is so much power is taking small steps! I wrote about it in my free book, Small Steps to Progression which you can download for free here! You’ll also be able to access my Free Resources Library where you can find many more resources to help you in your personal growth journey.

In the meantime, I want to remind you that you are deserving of love and compassion, especially towards yourself. Embrace the power of self-love!

-Lauren 😊

P.S I recommend you read these blog posts next:

• Daily Self-Love Habits
• Self-Care Tips for More Self-Love
• Self-Love Habits for More Self-Discovery

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